Grace for the Weak, Restraint for the Strong
“Let us not therefore judge one another any more, but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way.” ~ Romans 14:13
Romans 14 is not a how-to for confronting heretics or correcting those who pervert Scripture. It’s a challenge to us all in how to live in unity with other believers. This chapter is written to and about true born-again believers, members of Christ who may be weak or immature in their understanding, but who are sincerely trying to live for the Lord. If we’re honest, this passage is also a mirror, showing how quickly we can become judgmental in our hearts, even when we think we’re being “right.”
Paul begins very plainly: “Him that is weak in the faith receive ye, but not to doubtful disputations” (Romans 14:1). In other words, welcome your brother or sister, don’t pounce on them over personal opinions. Paul is talking about non-essential matters, eating certain foods, observing special days, or personal convictions that don’t violate Scripture. These are not gospel issues. They’re not sin issues. They’re matters of liberty. Yet how easily believers divide over them?
Some examples of non-essential matters are things like tattoos, style of dress, music preferences, whether you celebrate Christmas or Halloween, drinking wine with dinner… Arguments about Bible translations, worship style, or how someone chooses to homeschool their children. None of these are salvation issues. These are not commands or doctrines – we’re talking about convictions. And in Romans 14, we are not to be fighting about these. If a brother or sister is glorifying the Lord in their choice and walking in what the Lord has led them to do, then show them grace. That’s the type of maturity God wants us to grow to.
In fact, Paul warns both sides. If you’re the believer eating meat, don’t despise the one who isn’t. But if you’re the one who avoids certain foods or days, don’t judge the one who does. Why? “For God hath received him” (Romans 14:3). That settles it. God has already accepted that believer through faith in Christ, so who are you to reject them over something He hasn’t condemned?
Paul drives this home even more clearly in verse 4: “Who art thou that judgest another man’s servant? To his own master he standeth or falleth.” The believer we’re talking about isn’t yours to control. They answer to the Lord and “God is able to make him stand.” You might not agree with how they walk in liberty, but if their conscience is clear before God and it’s not violating Scripture, then let it be.
The entire tone of this chapter is one of humility. “Let every man be fully persuaded in his own mind” (Romans 14:5). Whether someone is observing a day or treating all days alike, whether they eat or abstain, the issue isn’t which one is right, it’s this: are they doing it unto the Lord? Verse 6 makes this clear, both the one who eats and the one who doesn’t are trying to do that. Honor the Lord, serve Him, not sin against Him. That’s the heart of the matter.
Paul goes on to remind us that we don’t live or die to ourselves. “Whether we live therefore, or die, we are the Lord’s” (Romans 14:8). Jesus died and rose again so He would be Lord over all of us, not so we can argue over diet or calendars. And one day, each of us will give an account to God, not for what someone else did, but for how we handled the truth, walked in love, and treated our fellow believers (Romans 14:10–12).
And here’s where it gets hard: if your liberty causes someone else to stumble, you’re no longer walking in love. “Destroy not him with thy meat, for whom Christ died” (Romans 14:15). That’s not nothing. Your actions can wound the spiritual walk of someone Jesus died for. That’s why Paul says, “Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another” (Romans 14:19).
Compromise isn’t the solution. Don’t let your personal liberties become a weapon that wounds your brother. If your actions cause another believer to sin against their own conscience, that’s not liberty, that’s selfishness. “It is good neither to eat flesh, nor to drink wine, nor any thing whereby thy brother stumbleth…” (Romans 14:21).
May this chapter humbly correct our pride, silence our opinions, and refocus our hearts on loving one another in truth. We can’t say we’re walking in the Spirit if we’re constantly tearing down those Christ died for. Be bold for truth when truth is on the line, but when it comes to matters of conscience, show grace, because that’s exactly what God has shown you.
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Blessed is the one who does not condemn himself by what he approves. ~ Romans 14:22
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Do Not Pass Judgment on One Another
Do Not Cause Another to Stumble
July 31th, and now as we turn our attention to the New Testament, today’s reading will come from the book of Romans, chapter 14, verses 1 through 23. You know, your love may be tested more by Christians who disagree with you than by unbelievers who persecute you. It takes a diamond to cut a diamond.
What should you do when your brother or sister disagrees with you about how God’s people ought to live? Well, first of all, there’s acceptance. Not all believers are mature, and love demands that the mature members of the family defer to the immature. Love protects people and gives them a chance to grow up. People may be difficult, but we must accept them in love for the Lord’s sake.
We’ll read about accountability. See, we have no right to judge and condemn one another because the judge is the Lord. Each believer will have enough to do in keeping his own account right without interfering with others’ accounts. And then there’s ambition. Our desire must not be to get everybody to agree with us.
Our desire must be to pursue peace, not cause others to stumble and help others to mature, in Christ. What starts as grieving can become offending and making weak and causing others to stumble and fall. The result might be destroying a brother or sisters faith, is destroying another just to have your own way worth it? And with that, let’s begin our reading today in the New Testament.
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